Social skills challenge · Challenge

Make the call you've been avoiding

That phone call you've been putting off — appointment, question, awkward follow-up — make it today. Write your opening sentence down first if it helps, then dial.

Why this works

Call avoidance is pure anticipatory anxiety: the call is almost always easier than the dread. Doing it with a prepared first sentence teaches you that you only need to script the entry, not the whole thing.

How to do it

  1. 1

    Name the call. You knew which one it was before you finished reading the title.

  2. 2

    Write the first sentence only: "Hi, I'm calling about..." The entry is the only part worth scripting.

  3. 3

    Dial within five minutes of writing it. The gap between preparing and dialing is where avoidance regrows.

  4. 4

    Afterwards, notice the delta: how bad the dread was versus how the call actually went. That gap is the lesson.

If your brain is fighting you

If your heart rate spikes at the thought: that's not a sign you shouldn't call, it's a sign you've been rehearsing catastrophe. The person answering does this all day and remembers nothing about awkward callers. Voicemail? Even better — deliver your sentence and hang up, full credit. The rep is dialing, not delivering a flawless performance.

Felt easy? Level up

Make the second avoided call the same day, while the first one's momentum is still warm. Avoidance lists shrink fast once they start shrinking.

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